Stephen’s Books


“I wrote this book for men out of a passion and an anger. I felt anger over how men are usually portrayed on my television. They are often presented as fools, or as dogs hanging out at the pole shoving $20 bills into some woman’s underwear. My passion came from talking to young men on the many campuses I visit. Often, in their frustration, they demand, “Look, I know we’re all screwed up, but just tell me what to do. No one has ever told us what a man is. Just tell us what we are supposed to do to be men.””

“Well, I got the message. In response, I wrote this book. I intend it as a hard-hitting, raw, step-by-step guide for men who want to become great men. I have filled the book with clear principles, historical vignettes, quotes, questions for men to challenge each other with, and even book and movie recommendations. This book is not everything a man needs to be a Great Man, but it is more than a start.”



After I wrote Mansfield’s Book of Manly Men and began speaking about it around the world, I saw the intense hunger for noble manhood in the men I met. I also saw their loneliness. Sadly, the average man today walks alone. He cannot name a best friend, does not know who he would call in a crisis and has no one to help him in the great project of noble manhood. 
I had learned the value of a band of brothers from painful experience and it troubled me that men of my generation lived in such isolation. I decided to write a hard-hitting, practical, step-by-step guide for building a band of brothers. I also decided to print it in a way that would make it inexpensive. This would mean that my little book could be purchased in bulk by men’s groups of every kind without breaking their budget.
I believe a global men’s movement is underway. I’m privileged to witness it and I’m privileged to play a minor role in it. Now, I want to enlist as many men as possible in the grand purpose of restoring noble manhood in our generation. Building Your Band of Brothers is part of that dream.



“I wrote this book on Guinness just as my office television portrayed all the horrors of the Wall Street collapse of recent years. It made me love the Guinness story all the more. In fact, I began to see in the Guinness tale an antidote to much that plagues corporations today. I found it refreshing.”

“As I wrote in the introduction of this book, ‘I knew I had found it: that earthy, human, holy tale of a people honing a craft over time and of a family seeking to do good in the world as an offering to God. This was what my weary soul needed—a story thick like the smell of barley at the St. James Gate brewery and as filled with the bitter and the sweet as any generational tale is likely to be.’ I love the Guinness story.”



“I am inspired by the Kurdish people. I’ve had the privilege of knowing Kurds here in the States and of traveling through the Kurdish regions of the Middle East. I’ve also watched the Kurds stand nearly alone against the evils of the Islamic State.”

“I’m moved by their sufferings. I’m made better by their courage. I’m also made hopeful by the fact the Kurds are a largely pro-democracy, pro-western, and pro-Israel people in the belly of the Middle East.”

“I did not write this book because I am an expert on the Kurds. I wrote it because I am an admirer of the Kurds and I wanted to urge my fellow Americans to admire them, too. I believe the Kurds point a way out of the darkness in the Middle East and I feel privileged to tell a bit of their story.”



 “Like most Americans, I love Lincoln. I love his humor, his wisdom, his moving ascent to the White House, and the glory of his words. As I earned my degrees in history, though, I came to realize that there were two widely differing views of Lincoln’s religious life.”

“Scholars tend to portray Lincoln as an unswerving and cynical atheist. Others—politicians and preachers, mostly—portray Lincoln as the zenith of Christian statesmanship. I became fascinated with this chasm and spent years reading about it as I could. I came to believe that both views were wrong. Lincoln became neither atheist nor model Christian.”

“Instead, Lincoln was on a spiritual journey all of his days—a poignant, painful journey. It was a journey that shaped our country’s history. This is the story I tell in Lincoln’s Battle with God.”




“I wrote this book because I believe that George W. Bush’s journey to faith is one of the defining stories of our time. Not only is he typical of his generation, in that he found faith after surfing the spiritual and sensual currents of his age, but he is symbolic of the religious fascination of our times.”

“His emphasis on faith in the White House forced a reconsideration of the First Amendment, the theological basis of law, and the myth of our secular society. Beyond this, though, his story is fascinating: a prince of power who failed to achieve until faith gave him a sense of destiny. The fact that this book became a New York Times bestseller twice means that Bush’s tale of faith hits a responsive chord in the American soul.”




I have a bias. I hate it when famous men and women are remembered only for their achievements without any reference to the dark hours and private pain that made those achievements possible. Everyone knows the story of Winston Churchill. They remember the jaunty cigar, bowler hat, inspiring speeches and sense of humor.”

“But do they know that Churchill’s father hated him? Do they know that he was a sickly stutterer who did horribly in school and suffered such deep depression during his life that he never wanted to stay in a room with a balcony because he was afraid he might throw himself off? And this was while he was Prime Minister of England rallying the western democracies to defeat Nazism!”

“I wrote this book because I wanted people with failures in their lives to know that those failures are never final, that suffering becomes the soil from which greatness grows.”



“This book is very personal to me because it came out of years of crisis consulting. My team and I developed a reputation for handling what we call “leadership crashes.” Over time, I began to recognize standard advanced warning signals of these expensive, damaging crashes that could help people prevent them.”

“I took notes. I conferred with other experts. I observed. Finally I came up with a list of ten signs that seemed to be present in nearly every huge leadership crash we handled, from the CEO who was arrested by the FBI to the fallen pastor to the politician who destroyed his life and his cause through an affair or through illegal activity on the Hill.”

“I wrote this short book to put these ten signs in an accessible, easily digestible form. I want to give companies, leadership teams, even marriages the language and concepts necessary to prevent disaster. I have also designed a series of talks around this book and the results we see from these are wonderful. I love helping people avoid leadership crashes, particularly since such crashes are like a plague on leadership in our age.