An interviewer recently asked me to name the single thing that has made the biggest difference in my life other than my parents and my faith. I didn’t hesitate to answer. There’s no question in my mind. The greatest force for good other than my parents and following Jesus has been, and continues to be, other men speaking into my life.
I’m completely convinced men cannot become the great men they are made to be without other men walking through life with them and saying what needs to be said to spur them to their best. I’ve seen it, lived it, been changed by it, and refuse to stop calling men to it.
Dozens of surveys have confirmed the need in our day. The average man over twenty-five cannot name a best friend. The average American male does not know who he would call to get his son out of jail if the need arose. He does not know who he would trust to help his wife at 1:00 a.m. if he was out of town. Loneliness haunts him. He has no band of brothers, has little fun, and has no one in his life courageous enough to speak bluntly about what needs to change in his life. He also tends to make one of the great errors of manhood: he tries to get from his wife what he can only get from friends who are invested in him. It won’t work.
One more survey result: In England, the primary cause of death for men under 50 is suicide. The main reason? Loneliness.
I can’t help you fix this in your life with a weekly email alone. I want to do more. Starting next week, I’m going to do a series of four Thursday night phone conferences on this topic. I’m calling it “Building Your Band of Brothers.” I want you to be on the call. It will cost you a bit, both in time and money. No apologies. This is too important. I’m going to talk about the keys to building a band of brothers for about 25 minutes and then I’m going to open up to Q&A and discussion. When you click on the link below, you’ll find you can sign up as one person or you can save a bit of money and sign up as part of a group of friends.
I’m not going to turn this weekly email into a marketing device. Fear not. From time to time, though, I will merge my thoughts about an important topic with opportunities for you to grow and achieve your best. This is one of them.
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